Shape Your Life

“We shape clay into a pot, but it is the emptiness inside that holds whatever we want.” Lao Tzu Sometimes it’s easy to let life situations shape us. I NEED to work this job. I HAVE TO do this for someone else. I MUST get this done. Our to-do lists drive us to work harder, smarter, faster. We multi-task and focus on ever-increasing efficiencies to get more done. Each of us is given the same 525,600 minutes a year, and we all can decide how we want to live them, how we want to fill our “pot” of life. We all have work that must be done, and I’m not suggesting that you walk away from your responsibilities. But what…

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Visualize your best self

We’ve all heard it before.  When you visualize something happening, it will come true.  Some believe completely, while others call it a bunch of bull. Who’s right? Well both sides, actually. Studies demonstrated that when people visualize a success – from college students taking exams to individuals visualizing exercise – it COULD work, with one major caveat. If you JUST visualize the end result – I will get thinner, I will pass the exam, I will lead a great project – you’re not more likely to succeed.  And, worse still, if you don’t succeed, you’re more likely to be angry and disappointed in yourself.  Visualization doesn’t work – and could actually backfire on you. When you visualize the end result…

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Parents working from home. It’s okay. Cut yourself some slack.

Take a minute and give yourself a pat on the back… yep, you in the comfy clothes.  You who has decided that showering can be more optional these days.  You who is trying to figure out groceries, school work, cleaning, and making sense of the chaos You’re doing fine schooling your children and working. I coach a lot of working parents who are currently trying to juggle it all… and struggling with their inability to do everything.  Here’s a little hint.  YOU CAN’T DO EVERYTHING!  And even more importantly, STOP TRYING TO BE PERFECT! Imagine a top-notch teacher with a masters degree and years of experience taking over your job with no notice, some information, no time in which to…

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Taking life one day at a time Seven Things to Think about Change and Challenges

“Ain’t you thinkin’ what it gonna be like when we get there?  Ain’t you scared it won’t be nice like we thought?” “No,” she said quickly.  “No, I ain’t.  You can’t do that.  I can’t do that.  It’s too much – livin’ too many lives.  Up ahead they’s a thousan’ lives we might live, but when it comes, it’ll be on’y one.” John Steinbeck, The Grapes of Wrath There are a thousand different lives ahead of us, and we never know which path will be ours.  We turn the corner and – Surprise! – it’s something great, or a complete blindside.  We just don’t know, and worrying about the future takes the joy out of today! That doesn’t mean that…

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