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Barbara Leggett

“The brain is like Velcro for negative experiences, but Teflon for positive ones. Dr. Rick Hanson Isn’t it strange how easily we can brush aside one positive comment, and yet just one negative comment can repeat endlessly in our minds? Isn’t it frustrating how one poor decision seems to make us feel that we are incapable, but a series of good decisions are almost ignored? The reality is that our brains are keyed to focus on the negative, the danger, the unknown.  It is only through practice and conscious choice that we start seeing – and creating – more positives. Countless studies have shown that we need three to six positives – words, experiences, thoughts – to balance out just…

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      What if a three-letter word could lead you down the path to success?  And forgetting it could lead you to failure?  How often would you use that word? It’s easy to want success now, some sign that everything will turn out the way we want it.  The promotion is going to happen, the project is going to succeed.  And when those signs don’t come, it’s easy to assume they won’t come.  Even worse, when failure happens, success seems like it will never come. The quick trick: Add the word “yet” to the story you are telling yourself.  “Yet” leaves to door open to great possibilities.  Just because something didn’t happen yet, doesn’t mean it can’t happen at…

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Shape Your Life

“We shape clay into a pot, but it is the emptiness inside that holds whatever we want.” Lao Tzu Sometimes it’s easy to let life situations shape us. I NEED to work this job. I HAVE TO do this for someone else. I MUST get this done. Our to-do lists drive us to work harder, smarter, faster. We multi-task and focus on ever-increasing efficiencies to get more done. Each of us is given the same 525,600 minutes a year, and we all can decide how we want to live them, how we want to fill our “pot” of life. We all have work that must be done, and I’m not suggesting that you walk away from your responsibilities. But what…

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Visualize your best self

We’ve all heard it before.  When you visualize something happening, it will come true.  Some believe completely, while others call it a bunch of bull. Who’s right? Well both sides, actually. Studies demonstrated that when people visualize a success – from college students taking exams to individuals visualizing exercise – it COULD work, with one major caveat. If you JUST visualize the end result – I will get thinner, I will pass the exam, I will lead a great project – you’re not more likely to succeed.  And, worse still, if you don’t succeed, you’re more likely to be angry and disappointed in yourself.  Visualization doesn’t work – and could actually backfire on you. When you visualize the end result…

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