Our brains are keyed to focus on the negative, the danger, the unknown. It is only through practice and conscious choice that we start seeing – and creating – more positives.
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It’s easy to want success now, some sign that everything will turn out the way we want it. The promotion is going to happen, the project is going to succeed. And when those signs don’t come, it’s easy to assume they won’t come. Even worse, when failure happens, success seems like it will never come.
“We shape clay into a pot, but it is the emptiness inside that holds whatever we want.” Lao Tzu Sometimes it’s easy to let life situations shape us. I NEED to work this job. I HAVE TO do this for someone else. I MUST get this done. Our to-do lists drive us to work harder, smarter, faster. We multi-task and focus on ever-increasing efficiencies to…
We’ve all heard it before. When you visualize something happening, it will come true. Some believe completely, while others call it a bunch of bull. Who’s right? Well both sides, actually. Studies demonstrated that when people visualize a success – from college students taking exams to individuals visualizing exercise – it COULD work, with one major caveat. If you JUST visualize the end result –…
Take a minute and give yourself a pat on the back… yep, you in the comfy clothes. You who has decided that showering can be more optional these days. You who is trying to figure out groceries, school work, cleaning, and making sense of the chaos You’re doing fine schooling your children and working. I coach a lot of working parents who are currently trying…
“Ain’t you thinkin’ what it gonna be like when we get there? Ain’t you scared it won’t be nice like we thought?” “No,” she said quickly. “No, I ain’t. You can’t do that. I can’t do that. It’s too much – livin’ too many lives. Up ahead they’s a thousan’ lives we might live, but when it comes, it’ll be on’y one.” John Steinbeck, The…
“Ain’t you thinkin’ what it gonna be like when we get there? Ain’t you scared it won’t be nice like we thought?” “No,” she said quickly. “No, I ain’t. You can’t do that. I can’t do that. It’s too much – livin’ too many lives. Up ahead they’s a thousan’ lives we might live, but when it comes, it’ll be on’y one.” John Steinbeck, The…
If we want to BE HAPPY, we have to feel pain. You’re probably thinking, “WHAT? But pain isn’t happy or fun. Pain, quite frankly, is painful. And we need to avoid it all costs if we want to be happy, right?” Nope. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. So how does that play out right now? Let’s be honest. COVID-19 is making life pretty hard for…
It seems like COVID-19 is consuming us and having an impact on our happiness. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Here’s what the science tells us. 50% of our happiness “set point” comes from our genetics, childhood experiences, challenges, etc. 10% of our happiness is related to our life circumstances 40% of our happiness is all about MINDSET – and is completely in…
Someone once told me that working from home is both the best and worst of both worlds. When my kids were little, I agreed completely. Instead of getting into my nice clean office, I was in the middle of happy kid chaos! I loved being with my happy kids. I hated the chaos. Getting work done, feeling isolated from others, and seeing laundry, dishes or…